Win "The Control Trap" - our book of the week
I talk alot on this blog about women and control. We've all struggled with overcoming our fears with control instead of with God. Barbara Sullivan talks about all of this, her own struggles with control, and practical Biblical tips to escape the need to manage people and circumstances. This isn't just for the "control freak", it's for every one of us.
"When the woman stops trying to control, she also helps to break the power of the curse hindering her husband's ability to provide that God issued at the Fall...Jesus redeemed us from the curse of the law, and legally it is broken, but we will not experientially see the effects until we women restore the proper authority structure in our homes. Adam listened to the voice of his wife and was cursed. Now it's time for wives to listen to their husbands and be blessed." (The Control Trap, p. 149) Powerful stuff! Sullivan supports the Biblical authority structure without supporting domination of women.
The book is well organized into sections entitled "Discovering Control", "Becoming 'the Director'", "Why Do We Control?", "Family Ties that Bind", and "Spiritual Roots and Release". Sullivan writes well and fills her chapters with true anecdotes that keep the book entertaining and informative without being preachy.
Place a comment with this post for your chance to win. Make sure I have a way of contacting you, either through your website or an e-mail address.
"When the woman stops trying to control, she also helps to break the power of the curse hindering her husband's ability to provide that God issued at the Fall...Jesus redeemed us from the curse of the law, and legally it is broken, but we will not experientially see the effects until we women restore the proper authority structure in our homes. Adam listened to the voice of his wife and was cursed. Now it's time for wives to listen to their husbands and be blessed." (The Control Trap, p. 149) Powerful stuff! Sullivan supports the Biblical authority structure without supporting domination of women.
The book is well organized into sections entitled "Discovering Control", "Becoming 'the Director'", "Why Do We Control?", "Family Ties that Bind", and "Spiritual Roots and Release". Sullivan writes well and fills her chapters with true anecdotes that keep the book entertaining and informative without being preachy.
Place a comment with this post for your chance to win. Make sure I have a way of contacting you, either through your website or an e-mail address.
posted by Terri | 9:52 AM
10 Comments:
Terri, I've been thinking of you all week because God has been helping me face/accept my womanhood and I know this is a topic for one of your WIP. Win or not, I bet this is a book I NEED to read. You have my e-mail so I won't post it here.
Brandy of The Building Brows
Hi Terri,
I read your post in FCW and wanted to say hello. I'll be back to check through your magazine guidelines for Christian writers. It looks like you've got some really helpful resources here for writers!
:)
I blog at Mom 2 Mom Connection'
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Oh, this looks like a great book. One thing I definately stuggle with is control. Actually, my mother-in-law and I were just talking about that on Saturday night. I think as women we all have an inclination to control because we have to be in control so often to run our households, raise our children, etc. But, when it comes to God and His plan, we can't do that. Thanks for letting us know about this book!
I forgot to leave my e-mail address. It is: blueunicorn1974@yahoo.com. Thank you!
Hmmm...that certainly is an interesting title for a book. I grew up in an alcoholic home. The need to make sure I 'stay on top' of everything helps keep back the fear living in that kind of chaos brings.
I'll send you a separate e-mail with my contact information. I know you from a group we're both in.
This sounds so interesting to me! I know I have the stronger personality than my husband to the extent that I think he sometimes listens to my opinion then feels he has to o it my way. Like he can't ponder the matter himself then discuss it with me before making the final decision. He has even gone to the extent of not telling me things and then getting into trouble because he didn't speak with me thus landed our family in a bad situation. Running backwards instead of learning how to work with me while staying the head of the house. Some of this stems from several past bad decisions and a poor upbringing. These past decisions now leaves me feeling like I need to have control over everything before we land in the hot seat again even though he is trying to do better. I just don't trust anymore that he can have the control! Oh and the friction and wheel gets going. Help! He is having a hard time releasing some control without feeling like he is stupid or some such nonsense. I am having a hard time trusting in him even though he is trying to release some of his controlling nature and be a Biblical husband/father. Ack!
Ack! Sorry, my email is mjkmzn@earthlink.net. Is there a way to not publish to the internet world my email address?
Great recommendation! I'm on my way to Borders! Believe it or not...this may be good advise for letting go of adult children as well. :)
Diane
Honestly--much-needed topic! I thought I controlled everything...until my children became teen-agers...and I learned quickly...I was duped! Just teasing--a little! Learning to surrender, allowing others to be in control of their own destiny, trusting, loving someone enough to let them be different...are all great gifts mothers can offer their families.
Diane
Congratulations, Brandy! The winner of The Control Trap. Enjoy!
Terri
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